On the way to lunch, passing by a dutch girl that really made an impression (on the negative way, out of the way she was dressing), I started a discussion with her about what’s sexy or not.
I started criticizing women, of course.
She threw her arguments at men.
Because the sandwich was finished, we decided to look for more points of view.
Here are ours. Tell us about yours…
Not sexy at all (women)
- Rainbow make-up;
- Hair not brushed or combed;
- Bitten nails or doing it in public;
- Bad breath;
- Not showering;
- Speaking loud;
- Authority behavior;
- Trying to be someone else;
- Too many rings, necklaces, earrings and bracelets;
- Confusing feminine with cheap;
- Not assuming the age;
- Only knowing the world around by what happens on Oprah;
- Taking advice from Dr. Phil;
- Eating like a bird;
- Drinking like a man;
Sexy (women)
- Attitude;
- Education;
- Politeness;
- Not trying to be “as men”;
- Smiling to a compliment;
- Seduce and being seduced;
- Keeping some private gardens, private;
- Respect and being respected;
- Having own dreams;
- Rejecting to be a sheep;
- Not assuming that “men are all the same”;
- Make a man laugh;
Now it’s my turn 
This list is based on my personal experience, talking with other women or listening them in the train and by observing men behavior.
I have to admit that it was much more easier to write not sexy than sexy. Actually in the original list I came up with 27 not sexy characteristics against 11 sexy characteristics. For obvious reasons I can’t publish all of them… Though 27 against 11 makes us think, huh? What does this mean? 
Not sexy
- Men who treat women like if we wouldn’t have a brain, personality or free will
- AXE a reason to run… to run as farther as you can
- men who pick their nose and any other of physical behavior in public. To this I add spiting or wetting their fingers to change a page of the newspaper or book.
- men who you have to open the door for and/or slam the door in your face. At least HOLD IT behind you!!!!!!!
- fashion: pointy shoes, jackets/sweaters with pink/orange or what ever color in the back, jeans with shiny or not shiny things (I don’t even know how to call it) and please stop with the white socks!!!!!!!!
- compare women with other women in front of women
- men who only talk about themselves and their life, and their ex (wives, girlfriend, boyfriend – you pick) and their jobs, and their friends, and their team, and their… and their… and their… and bla bla bla…
- men who instead of muscles have air bags…
Sexy
- Strong personality, knows how to dress and knows how to seduce the the nose of women
- he actually remembers and listens what you say, asks about you, shows interest and knows how to make you smile and laugh
- knows how to dance or at least knows how to move
- looks at you like you’re the only one in the room and if you’re alone looks at you like you’re the only one he could be with in the whole world
- can actually discuss a few subjects giving his opinion and presents good arguments to justify his opinions
- men who knows how to touch a woman (a simple touch in the arm, waist, hand or knee) without invading you
- flowers are not only romantic, can also be very sexy
- a man who knows how to cook. Forget the frozen pizza, ok??????
Yeap! It might suck but believe me it turns us on at least some of us! hahahahahahhahaha
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